The Mother Code: An Evening with Ruthie Ackerman
in conversation with Stacy Sims
Wednesday, May 28, 2025 | 6:00pm
Anyone can visit
Open Today 'til 5:30pm
in conversation with Stacy Sims
Wednesday, May 28, 2025 | 6:00pm
In this propulsive memoir, an award-winning journalist blends history, science, and cultural criticism to uncover whether motherhood outside of society’s rigid rules and expectations is possible—and whether she fits the mold for what a mother should be.
Ruthie Ackerman had long believed that the decision to not have children was a radical act. She’d grown up being told that she came from a long line of women who had abandoned their kids and feared she would pass on her half-brother’s rare genetic disorder. So when she marries a man who doesn’t want children, she hopes she can be happy without any. But a voice in her head keeps returning to the question: What if mothering can be a radical act too? When her marriage veers off course, she goes searching through the twists and turns of her DNA to decide once and for all whether she should become a mother.
By the time Ruthie finally determines that she desperately wants a child, she learns that motherhood won’t happen the way she thought it would. Now she must enter the hall of mirrors where biology, genetics, and philosophy collide as she wonders what it means to both create and nurture a life. What does inheritance really entail? What does it mean to be a “good” mother? When it comes down to it, how important is nature versus nurture? And where are the models for what a “good life” can look like for women, both with and without children?
Synthesizing reportage and memoir, The Mother Code unravels how we’ve come to understand the institution of motherhood. What emerges is a groundbreaking new vision for what it means to parent: a mother code that goes beyond our bloodlines and genetics and instead urges us to embrace inheritance as the legacy we want to leave behind for those we love.
6 pm reception/6:30 pm program
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Copies of The Mother Code will be available for sale & signing courtesy of Joseph-Beth Cincinnati.
About Ruthie Ackerman
An award-winning journalist, Ruthie's writing has been published in Vogue, Glamour, O Magazine, The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Salon, Slate, Newsweek, and more. Her Modern Love essay for the New York Times became the launching point for her forthcoming memoir, The Mother Code. She has a Master's in Journalism from New York University and lives in Brooklyn with her family.
About Stacy Sims
Stacy is the Founder and Executive Director of The Well, a Cincinnati-based nonprofit working at the intersection of arts and wellness. She is also a novelist, playwright and children's book author. She met Ruthie several years ago at a gathering for On Being and the two have remained connected since.
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